The Persistent Fear

Bullying is an unnecessary and destructive way of conducting oneself among others that involve an observed or anticipated lopsidedness in the distribution of power. The behavior is often repeated, or consists a possibility to be performed again over time. Those who bully and those who get bullied, both are open to the elements of psychological damage.

Although a phenomenon like bullying is found at every stage of life and at every place that we might be exposed to, but school bullying is something that I personally find the most upsetting one.

The school is that part of one’s life that builds their character, personality and the traits of individuality that one is going to possess throughout their life.

When we hear the word bullying what comes to our mind is a tall & muscular kid troubling a comparatively short and weak kid, physically. But that kind of bullying is just one of the several unknown ways of troubling others. Physical bullying, verbal bullying, cyber bullying, sexual bullying, relational aggression and prejudiced bullying are the basic categories that bullying can be classified into. I guess everyone could come up with a definition of their own on all the classifications mentioned above but the most menacing, sinister and disturbing form that often goes unnoticed, neglected and ignored by the concerned people is the relational aggression or the psychological bullying that a large part of school/college going teenagers suffer with.

I guess everyone could come up with a definition of their own on all the classifications mentioned above but the most menacing, sinister and disturbing form that often goes unnoticed, neglected and ignored by the concerned people is the relational aggression or the psychological bullying that a large part of school/college going teenagers suffer with.

Sometimes referred to as mental, emotional or psychosomatic harassment, relational aggression is a type of social manipulation where people (teens in this case) try to hurt and alter their peers’ confidence or incapacitate their social status and place.

Relational bullies often exclude others from a social gathering or squads, spread illogical but disturbing rumors, maneuver situations against them and break their self-belief. The only aim of a relational bully is to increase their popularity, get more ‘socially acceptable’ and to amplify their social standing by demeaning others. In general, groups comprising boys and girls and people who although act confident but are completely insecure about their personality and capacity tend to use relational aggression more than the rest, especially those between the age groups of 10 to 20years.

Relational aggression is a cover-up for low self-esteem and lesser self-assurance. For example, girls who may feel insecure about their own clothes or appearance and persona generally harass others before others have a chance to feel good about themselves. And boys who find themselves incapable of competing with the victim in terms of actual talent, they tend to exploit the person from commenting on them and by discouraging him/her through isolating them from the scenario. The bullies tend to behave in a way that completely denies the presence of those who are already under confident.

The bullies tend to behave in a way that completely denies the presence of those who are already under confident.

Just because we don’t see something that never means that it does not exist. People do not talk about this kind of bullying and ignore it in a way that the victims are secluded forever until they don’t retaliate or take the stand for themselves.

I once heard a girl (victim of psychological bullying) saying, “I hate myself, I am disappointed with myself.” But the fact that we don’t know is that the girl writes well, sings well, cooks well and can paint as well. She has no reason to be disappointed with her but the society, kids around her and some insecure jealous people have made her life miserable.

It is high time that we understand stuff and act so that talents like these don’t go wasted.

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Author: indifferentmusing

I believe love, laughter and a thought spared for peace can overcome all the differences in the world.

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