“You either walk inside your story and own it or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness.” ~Brene Brown
Our society is a place where we are obsessed with teaching the kids some specific things (more precisely: subjects) and in the process, we forget to inculcate a very important quality that the youth needs: Self Confidence.
I have seen intelligent, keen and talented preteens and teenagers hating themselves for not being good enough. They are always self-castigating and even when they are capable of doing things they fail to, because they are not sure and positive enough that they can do it.
It takes a lot to be a kid. Whether going to a new school, stepping up to bat for the first time or standing up to read out something in the classroom, kids face a lot of uncharted territories. And if they are not self-assured about their capacities from the beginning, they become pessimistic and doubtful about their life.
Confidence is the key to everything. No matter whether you are a kid, teenager or an adult, you need confidence for motivating yourself to keep doing something.
A person with self-efficaciousness is more likely to make efforts to get into unexplored and interesting ventures. She will tend to rebound better after the moments of failure that our life has to offer. And being confident also leads to more persistent outlook in the face of obstacles.
In contrast, people who doubt their capabilities and are not certain about themselves shy away from difficult tasks that they view as personal pressure. They have small ambitions and frail commitment to the goals and targets that they choose to pursue.
People with insufficient self-reliance are slow to recover their sense of efficacy after a failure, setback or a mistake. When they fall short of achieving the desired, they think it’s because they lack abilities, and they lose faith in themselves. They are also easy victim to stress, depression, and negativity.
“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.” ~Golda Meir
We need to be confident about ourselves, our personality that is a result of our life and our actions. When people learn to take responsibility for something they have done even if it is a mistake that’s where lies the scope of improvement.
Self confidence and self love are among those issues that are not much talked about where we don’t realize that in order to get over a failure, to overcome an insecurity, to tackle a mistake and to achieve the desired the most important thing is the correct amount of belief that we need to keep on ourselves.
No matter how much the people around believe in us if we don’t trust our capabilities and adroitness then no one, mark my word no one in this world can make you do something.
So if you want to do something and you are working hard enough for it then it’s high time to toss out your erroneous belief about how the competency works, embrace the scope for correction and betterment and regain the tenacity and assurance to embark upon any conflict that life gets you into.
“Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.” ~Peter T. Mcintyre
So, let us not fear to make mistakes rather let us keep trying. And the most important thing be proud of yourself.